She left the polygamous relationship that she felt was demeaning and almost left her feeling worthless. Vuyokazi Nciweni was in line, including Tirelo Kale, to be one of the wives to Mpumelelo Mseleku, the son of a polygamist Musa Mseleku. Vuyokazi decided to break off the relationship, and over the weekend her new lover, Chef Xolani Sabelo, sent his family to the Eastern Cape to pay her lobola. 

NEW LIFE

Over the weekend, lobola negotiations were completed for the bride-to-be and her new man, who are said to be planning towards a wedding. Despite having two children with Mpumelelo, Vuyokazi says she has closed the Mseleku mamkhulu (first wife) chapter and is ready to start a new life.

MOVING ON

Vuyokazi said the relationship made her feel miserable and worthless, especially after Mpumelelo said he would be marrying a woman who was a virgin as his first wife. "I constantly doubted my worth,' she said. "Some of the things he said about me were shocking and mean,' she added. Vuyokazi was wooed by Chef Sabelo's kindness, charm, and romantic nature and his kind gestures of buying her roses and chocolates, something she never experienced in her past relationship. "I chose myself. I chose someone who seems to value me,' she added.